Not Everyone Fits..

not a match..

We have all been there, in a group or on our own. At first everything goes well and we think this will be a great friendship or maybe from the beginning we feel a weird vibe that we couldn’t explain right away. We ask ourselves if we are being jealous, mean or judge mental but the more we hang out the more we see that we just can’t click with this person. What makes it even harder is that they seem fine, oblivious to how we are feeling. It is like they can’t feel the same vibe that we do. 

As time goes by we begin to question the intentions of the friendship and why it has come to us. We even begin to feel there is no purpose to it at all, it’s not like we like this person very much but wait isn’t that mean? No it isn’t mean it is okay to not like someone because not everyone fits. We see that there are many people that like them but no matter how hard we try to find a way it doesn’t work. 

Now that we see that the relationship with this person isn’t going to work, what do we do? Earlier we asked ourselves why? what is the reason for this? These are the perfect questions to ask yourself. Why does this keep happening to me? This might be a repetitive occurrence in our lives, we keep drawing these type of relationships to us.  This means it is time for a change, a change in what we want in friendships and who we want to attract to us. This shows us that the lessons in the past we have not learnt from. Now we have to look deep within ourselves to find the root cause. 

When we focus on the things that we don’t like that is what comes to us just like the things we love do as well. When there is something in our lives that we continue to bring up and we allow it to keep control over us then it will continue to come back over and over or it will remain in our life. Accepting the person for who they are and kindly putting space between you will help the change begin. As we create this change we can start focusing on what we want and who we want to meet.  Making changes in our life by welcoming fresh positive energy is going to help us grow into our true authentic selves. Welcome those who support you and lift your spirit high, find the lesson in those who pass through and move along toward positive lasting friendships.

Love and Light,

Tonya Marie

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One Way

ONE WAY

A One Way Street…

Never see’s the other way…

It continues to see..

One way..

That will never change…

A One Way relationship…

Never sees the other side…

Always being the one to thrive…

There is a chance for it to work…

If the One Way…

Can change….

Life works in many ways. Not only One Way, like the streets we follow that never change. A wrong turn can cause an accident, hurt and destruction! A one way continues on and on and by this it thinks that’s all there is to life. Always having its own way and never having to change.

Life cannot be One Way when we all see, feel and think differently. Open hearts and open minds are needed in any and all relationships. One Way is never they way.

Some Have Words

Rainbows

Some have words full of color…

A rainbow of vocabulary…

Inspiring to those who have few….

A source of wisdom, so it seems..

Having a way with those sweet, colorful words…

Enticing to those seeking knowledge….

Taking shape as one facilitates…

The value of such pretty words…

Feeling powerful…

The colors seem to fade…

Transforming into black and white…

Some have words ..

That become untrue…

Not resonating between the two…

Loss of control…

When words turn ugly…

Some have words…

You should be weary…

For the brightest rainbow..

Fades to nothing…

Leaving you speechless….

But…

With new beginnings…So…

Some have words..

That are Truth and Honest…

Speaking of beauty…

Always glimmering …

No power or struggle…

That rainbow is here to stay…

Some have words…

Choose them wisely…..

TMB~15

We can all be enticed by those who speak of such wisdom and knowledge. We are drawn in with the thirst to learn as we want to spend time with those that want to teach us and work together. We take on friendships, partnerships and relation ships by just words alone. Never really asking for proof of this knowledge and trusting the words because they are so bright and full of color. As time goes on we see that the words are just that!! Never do they take shape or transform within the relationship, they become stagnant and repetitive. Like an echo of words already spoken. As this happens we find ourselves lost for words and wonder how we got ourselves into this trap. Only to find out that there is no beautiful end to this rainbow.

May you always find the light in them that is in you! If you struggle may it be a lesson as you move on along your journey! 

FORGIVNESS

Relationships of all forms can be challenging. We have no trouble expressing our love and caring for one another in most cases. Giving thanks in the form of a hug, a smile and even a kiss on the cheek. This is the common way to express love and gratitude to the ones we love. As a child I was raised that way and I raised my children in the same way. My friendships I treat in the same matter because I love and have compassion for all of my relationships. This doesn’t mean that everyone is like that in their relationships. Whether it be family or friends some of us have a hard time expressing love in that way.  A hug can be foreign to many that have never felt love or have been shown compassion from others. It does not matter where we are from because love is the same in every part of the world.

On the other hand we have anger and again, we have no trouble expressing this emotion in our relationships. Some relationships people express the love and the anger with no problem. Why shouldn’t they? These emotions go hand in hand when you share space with others. We are all so different in our expectations that sometimes we agree but disagree. Many of us can show self control with the anger we may carry towards another and then some over express this towards their loved one causing deep hurt. Both parties suffer by feeling unloved and cared for by the other. With both love and anger we can loose the vision of what the other person really means to us because we let that emotion control the true feeling within. 

At some point there is going to be resentment towards the one that either loved or angered too much. We as humans can hold on to this feeling for an entire life time. Taking away from our own peace and even that of others. Undeserving of feeling this way or carrying such a burden. When we cannot express love or anger to the ones we care so much about in our lives. When we struggle so much for the words but cannot seem to find them. We loose ourselves in the process and forget as time passes why we have continued to hold resentment for so long. We allow this to control our present lives knowing we should let go of the past. 

Instead of living in a tunnel by only seeing what we feel and not seeing that relationships take team work.  We take part in the matters of the heart just as much as the others do. I would like to see the relationships in others heal as well as some of my own. What a difference it would make for many if there was a way to do this without the confrontation so many of us worry about. This is why there is so much strain and suffering on our relationships. The unspoken words can fester and spoil years of happiness in our relationships. 

Enough sadness and  sorrow. Let there be love and joy. Expand the love we feel in our hearts and find a way to heal those that have held on to these burdens!

There is a way! I shall start and you may follow, if you choose to.

(include the name of your loved one in this prayer)

forgive

Love and Blessings to you and yours,

XO, Tonya

Through it all….

Through the Storm……

                                       The wind…………….

                                                            The rain…..………..

Driplette

Love conquers ……..

                               Love shows…..

                                                          Love always knows………….

His Love Shines

His love shines……………..

                                 Like the fire he lights….

                                                                            Keeping us warm…….

Delightful Treats

Sharing delights……..

                                     Warm Cocoa……..

                                                                   Chocolate…..

Kisses

Kissing…

                  Tasting…..

                                           Warm ….

                                                               and Snugly…..……

Through it all

The night went on…….

                                      Blessed are we…..

                                                                        To Have………

                                MADE IT THROUGH IT ALL ♥