Single after almost ’30 Decades


Dear Abel,                                                        

Just call me…Single-

Almost 30 years ago I married my husband. We had the same dream that everyone starts out with. A perfect home with our two sons.

We were living the dream…. Until something changed! I changed! Woke up to who I really was on the inside. The true me. Not the person he wanted me to be. I fell out of love with him and in love with me. Everything changed for me when this happened, for the better!! Though there are still days that aren’t so great but I am happy.

My husband and I divorced but living together until things are settled and I find a place. That is fine. we get along and still love eachother.

It will be time for me to move on soon. Into my own place. As a single woman. I am looking forward to being on my own(though single)

Here’s the punch line…. I have a few male “friends” that have not taken the hint or even straight forward, I AM NOT READY TO DATE!

At our age I would have thought they would have gotten it by now but they don’t………………..HELP!!!! I want to be with me right now. Does this mean we can’t be friends?

Dear “Single”

I am glad to see that you have ended a time in your life in a peaceful manner when so many don’t. I believe that it is a wise choice for you to take the time for yourself after putting so many years into others without truly knowing who you were.

Now to get to know yourself as a “happily single” woman. 

Far too often people jump into another relationship. Fears of being alone scare them toward another. This is called rebounds, or spite, or just loneliness. Which ever the reasoning behind it, some move to fast.

These men/friends in your life seem to fit the profile that most men do. Their age may tell a different story but all in all is the same. It is hard not to stereotype when it comes to the opposite sex but it seems we are always going there.

I see that you have already been forward with them and they still want to find a way into your arms. In order to keep that space I suggest you keep your friendship to merely phone calls or group settings. This is to keep him from getting the wrong idea. Always be clear in your words and actions, especially if you know he is interested. Finally if he just won’t give up and you aren’t giving in, then it seems the relationship may have to be over.

Take Care, Abel~


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11 thoughts on “Single after almost ’30 Decades

  1. It’s just like back in college dating days. If you tell them your not looking for that kind of relationship now, and they don’t listen they have no one to blame but themselves.

      1. No I’m sure you did it right. I just went to your blog instead of writing challenge, and started randomly reading things.

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